Why frustration and tears for Bennie is so beneficial to you.
Discover the importance of understanding your dog and yourself.
In this episode,you’ll learn why making the mental shift in how you train and interact with your dog is so important.
Show Highlights
Bennie was so frustrated with his dog Molly running out the door and his attempts to catch her that he created negative feelings inside of him which was the driving force for why he changed his outlook.
This mental shift in really trying to make your dog a part of the family is extremely important for many reasons.
What you are going to learn as a dog lover is really the importance as to why you have a dog.
Always remember, your dog is a very important part of your life and you want them to become a part of your family.
The goal is to help people create a transformation in their lives with their dogs.
Bennie’s Breaking Point:
- When Bennie was trying to teach Molly the place command is when the emotions erupted.
- Molly would be sniffing something and wander off. Bennie was taught to bring her back to the original place and discipline her the entire way which was actually creating fear in Molly and Bennie was intimidating her.
- When she would wander off again and he would approach her again with negative body language and was extremely angry in his tone.
- Molly took off running away from Bennie and wouldn’t let him near her because she was afraid of him.
- He would then catch her about a block away and discipline her the entire way home – Bennie thought he just needed to discipline her to get her understand the command.
- He finally chased her over a mile one day and was so upset he sat down and started to cry.
- He kindly spoke to her and called for her. Molly didn’t run away this time. She hesitantly walked up to him and stayed with him.
- Bennie out of frustration took Molly’s leash and collar off and he told her if you want to leave and not be with me then just go but she didn’t run away.
- Bennie started loving on her and Molly followed him about 30-40 feet and then she started wandering off again.
- He sat down and kindly called her name and she came over to him a little less hesitantly this time.
- This process continued all the way home.
- Bennie started to realize that Molly wanted to be with him because she was following him home and entered the house without hesitation.
- For the rest of the day he just loved on Molly and spent quality time with her.
During Bennie’s own reflection, he realized that if someone approached him in the way that he was approaching Molly, he would want to run away as well.
When Molly started trusting him and Bennie was creating trust – a bond was forming.
It is very important to take a pause before reacting with anger or frustration toward your dog.
The preservation of the relationship is the most valuable thing between you and your dog.
Praise is the only way you are going to get your dog to do what you want them to do – to be truly obedient.
Obedience is the willingness to obey and this is a goal for your dog that is created out of love and praise.
Homework
In lieu of homework you are going to reflect for 5-10 minutes as to why you have a dog? This exercise is a good way to reflect your growth regarding your relationship with your dog.
Answer these 6 questions:
- Am I happy with how my dog behaves in general?
- When I get frustrated and angry with my dog do i change how I interact with her?
- What was my purpose in getting this dog and or getting this breed?
- Do i hold on to my frustrations in life and with my dog when i am interacting with my dog?
- When I am out and I return home, in general what are my thoughts and feelings about my dog?
- How much 1 on 1 time do I spend with my dog on a daily basis?
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